An affirmation is a statement of what you know to be true. It is not talking yourself into anything, or pretending to be what you’re not. It is the power of articulating to yourself who you are, what you value, why you do what you do, what really matters. An affirmation is a commitment and reminder — to being and to doing.
I will admit that when I hear the word affirmation, I immediately think of Stuart Smalley on Saturday Night Live looking at himself in the mirror and earnestly declaring, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and, doggonit, people like me!” But I have come to be more open to the practice. In fact, I find affirmations remarkable.
Affirmations can be a daily practice, or just something you turn to when you find yourself being hard on yourself and in need of some loving reminders from your wise self. When there is something you want to remind yourself or recommit to — to keep present in your consciousness, at the forefront of those buzzing voices in your head — write it down five times. Keep a special notebook for affirmations, or just use the back of an envelope; it doesn’t matter.
What makes a good affirmation? Whatever you need to hear right now. You know best what you need to say to yourself.
Here are some examples to get you started:
I am enough.
I can choose how much or how little I do.
I am present.
I will put first what matters most.
I can change.
I make change.
I treat myself gently.
I decide what matters.
I start with kindness.
This is about more than me.